@HLGEM Good gravy. Here’s the I-thought-about-it-before-I-posted-it version:

I maintain that it is not white men that are a (the) problem per se, but 'whiteness' and 'masculinity'. Our understanding of both these terms which confuse our communications and incense our emotions.

Anyway, sorry if I ignited anything painful. And thanks for taking the time to tell me what you thought and felt. It's the whole point really.