@tunguska And you are right that I do often approach things from the wrong direction. It is revealing enough for me to keep doing it.

For example, most modern internet companies come into profit by convincing enough people they can be trusted, and then systematically breaking that trust.

[ edit: hyperbolic, hard pressed to back up with facts, huff and puff much? Obviously indefensible but it sure felt the opposite pounding on the glass. ]

I'm not bothered when people initially think I am not to be trusted because I present so many clichès indicating as much, but then come to understand that appearances are not identical with identity as they start hearing what I’m actually saying.

Other times they miss out.